When kids are young, they seem to have a very easy time to say no, and mean it. This is usually what parents call the terrible twos. This is a time when children don’t listen well and they are stubborn. This is usually frustrating for parents and teachers.
However, for the child, this period is critical to building self-confidence. The child discovers that he or she can have their own opinion, and that saying no can mean a certain strength and power over a situation.
In addition, by practising saying no, the child explores the boundaries of his or her environment. Because not everything goes the way the child wants it to go all the time, the child learns that saying no often triggers a reaction in another period and that’s how the child begins to feel empathy, taking someone else into account.
However, things change as kids grow up. Some children have a very hard to say no as they grow up. Still, it’s important for every child to learn that they can and should
Parents cannot just relax when their kids turn out to be 18. They have a responsibility to see through that their kid is still doing the right things and gear them towards a purposeful life even when things seem very bleak. So what do you really do? Read on to find out.
Bear with your child through thick and thin, instilling him continuously with the right values, principles and ethics. How do you manage to do that?
Let me cite you an example of my youngest sibling. He lost his Dad when he was only six. Yet, with the love of his mom and his sisters, he grew. But did he grow up to be the right kind of adolescent?
His sisters left for abroad either to settle or for higher education and then he had only his mom to guide him. Was he following the right path?
No. In fact he wasn’t. He dropped classes at school and only liked to play the guitar and chat online on the computer. He became out of reach and
Children come to us with predetermine disposition, aptitude and fortitude. How well they function within these capabilities directly relate to their home. Education, without apologies, begins at home. Children learn how to respond to any facets of life in the home.
Consequently, prejudices concerning people, foods, clothing and live styles manifest from within the home. If a child is aggressive, know that, that behavior comes from observing a family member. Substitute any other behavior positive or negative with the before mentioned word “aggressive” and acknowledge that it connects with a family member that cares for the child. Children emulate what they see.
Teachers recognize this more than any other professional group because it is in their classroom that they experience the consequences, good or bad, of what children learn at home. Hence, teachers at every new school year establish classroom rules in an attempt to ensure a universal law of acceptable social conduct.
As a tenet, parents are responsible for whether or not children succeeds academic. Without ignoring a child’s predetermine abilities, they must project clear positive expectations concerning school. As these expectations take form, parents
It was indeed an exciting time for me and my wife to see our baby growing slowly in my wife’s womb, and soon the day came when our little angel daughter was feeling safe and cozy in our arms. The day she was born, I decided that I will never scold her on any of her bad manners, instead, I will try to teach her lessons to be better.
While teaching her good lessons, I also learned a new lesson that instead of asking her to do something, do it yourself and let her observed how to do that. A messy floor with toys spread around is a common scene in any house with kids. You will often see parents asking their kids to clean up their toys. But what if they started doing it themselves and motivate the kids to help? I did the same and it worked like a magic. My daughter expected nothing in return. Just a thank you with a smiling face was enough to make her smile as well and she started helping me when I used to
Holding your baby for the first time gives you immense pleasure. The wait is finally over and after nine long months the pleasure of being a parent slowly starts to sink in. Your life now revolves around your baby and all you can think of giving him or her the best of everything. That brings us to an extremely important question and i.e. what makes a good parent? Is there some magic formula that caters to all parents around the world? To answer that question, there is nothing like ‘one size fits all’ parenting. As a parent you raise a unique and one-of-a-kind child and you truly know what’s best when it comes to upbringing of that kid. Let’s take a look at some parenting styles.
1} Authoritarian Style – This style of parenting is extremely strict and there is a lot of pressure on the child to adhere rules laid out by. It’s mostly like, ‘it’s my way or the highway’ approach. Parents are rigid and harsh. They feel they have natural authority over their children and they need to conform to whatever is said
There will be a time in your child’s academic life span when he fails a class. Or, if you have a late bloomer your child’s academic world might consist of several failing grades. It was shocking when you were made aware of your child’s poor grade because not once did your child indicate that he was struggling with any of his class work. You are now aware of your child’s academic struggles and so you frantically try to resolve the issue.
The first step to help your child academically begins with acknowledging his strengths and weaknesses. Parents often refuse to acknowledge that their child cannot read, write, or be successful in a given subject. They start to look at how much television their child watches, or his study habits. Parents begin to punish their child by eliminating television, video games and social activities. Then insist that their child spends more time studying. While all of these steps might be necessary, valuable and impactful they cannot be the only consideration.
The manner in which a child learns falls into two categories: census or intuitive. If parents do not
Parents should meditate with their children, and adults, in general, together with young people. Kids, and I mean male and female, are able to meditate alone, but if they are led, they clearly find it more harmonious and are able to consciously integrate the dimension of meditation in their everyday work. It isn’t an unknown topic, many are bringing it forward, and even if in some countries it’s absolutely forbidden, in the rest of the world, these things are already happening.
In India, for example, meditation takes place in class when at school, and in kindergarten too; but above all it takes place at home. Being the homeland of meditation, India has a very high number of people who meditate daily, and children do it together with their parents. If we move, predominantly in Asia, and visit a Buddhist country, we also find people having meditation as one of their daily activities, both parents and children. Children are thus able to cultivate this state of inner silence, relaxation and peace of mind, and carry it out throughout the day and life itself, generating a small space every day
When parents have to work and do not have an extended family to help pick up the slack, putting their children in a daycare becomes the only variable option. This rings particular true for single parents.
If you are the fortunate few and have parents that are retired and can care for your infant or toddler, you may never have to place you child in the any type of daycare, or home-care.
There are mothers who, three months after giving birth return to work to non-standard hours. They do not work a 9 to 5, which means they must place their children in a 24-hour day-care. Placing their infant in the care of strangers devastates most mothers. The guilt and fear with having to work and consequently having to place their infant in a childcare facility gnaws at their hearts. They observe events and people in their lives, see, and hear of at home mothers and in the back of their minds, they long for the privilege of staying at home
Is your child being bullied at school? As a parent, it can be really hard to know what to tell your child to do about that. Teachers and administrators will do what they can, but most bullies are sneaky, so at the end of the day, it is your kid alone against the bully. The biggest difference you can make is in teaching your child concrete skills for how to respond when bullied.
For conflicts at school, I find using children’s picture books a great place for ideas. One of my favorites is Simon’s Hook; A Story About Teases and Put-downs by Karen Gedig Burnett, illustrated by Laurie Barrows. In Simon’s Hook, Simon’s grandmother tells him a tale about a bunch of fish who learn to “Swim Free” rather than “taking the bait,” ie the insults, being thrown at them. Armed with his new skills, Simon is able to rejoin the kids at the playground who have been making fun of his bad haircut.
Simon learns five “Rules for Being a FREE Fish” from his grandmother’s story.
Rule 1: DO little or nothing!
Tip 1. Help your kids identify their value behind why a particular toy is important to them. Then help them prioritize their values.
By prioritizing what is important to your kids and having them articulate that to you, it will help you decide how much space to devote to a particular kind of toy. Let’s say, for example, that your child is nuts about dinosaurs. It just makes sense that he’d want a wide variety of dinosaurs represented, doesn’t it? On the other hand, a kid who loves dolls might be convinced that it is more important to lavish love and care on a limited number of dolls-and that the rest could find good homes elsewhere. That child might need more space for doll accessories, like a crib, but can make do with 2 or 3 especially beloved dolls.
Tip 2. Have as much shelve/bin/drawer space for your child as you can spare, so that they can stay organized.
Help kids learn to categorize toys into shelves or bins. This will allow your child
The goal as a parent is to help your child feel competent and confident, and to help her develop a sense of passion and purpose. There are many ways to raise happy, well-adjusted kids, but science has a few tips for making sure they turn out okay. From keeping it fun to letting them leave the nest.
No one would argue that raising children of character demands time and effort. While having children may be doing what comes naturally, being a good parent is much more complicated. Here are some steps to follow.
1 – Put parenting first:
Once you’re a parent, you have to learn to put your priorities below your children’s, and to make the sacrifice to spending more of your day caring for them than you do caring for yourself.
2 – Don’t aim for perfection:
According to a study, new parents who believe society expects perfection from them are more stressed and less confident in their parenting skills.
3 – Be good to your sons, Mamas:
A warm, attached relationship with mom
Okay, I can’t guarantee the happiness promise, but a recent article called “Science says parents of successful kids have these 13 things in common” published in Tech Insider does list chores as one factor that might lead to children’s success as adults. They quote author Julie Lythcott-Haims (How to Raise an Adult) as praising chores because it teaches kids that they “have to do the work of life in order to be part of life.”
Let’s look at the benefit of chores a little more deeply (and I will put forth my not-scientifically-proven theory on why it also makes kids happier).
1. Doing Chores Raises Self Esteem
Self Esteem is confidence about one’s own worth and abilities. Little kids may not have learned to read and older kids may be struggling with long division or quadratic equations, but most kids can learn to make their beds and sweep the floor. Are these worthwhile tasks? Of course they are. And it is much easier for a child to understand the usefulness of a clean floor than to grasp where algebra is going to
The worst thing parents can do to their child is love them too much. They say love is blind, and it surely is. Too much loves blurs things. It is hard to see a wrong where is love is concerned. This case is similar to that of an overly adored and dotted child. The parent tends to disregard the necessity of correcting trespasses of such a child because they don’t want to hurt their feelings.
• Children raised without a clear distinction of what is right from wrong grow up as bullies and are less famous among their peers. Such a child has a low tolerance to complete intolerance of other people opinion, portraying them as arrogant and ill- mannered.
• Teachers also tend to hate and pick on this type of child. They treat them indifferently from other kids. They are less likely to be asked questions in class, and this interferes with the child participation to class events. As a result, their overall academic performance is affected. One thing teachers hate is an
Every time I get asked what my parents is like, I could not think of the times they were angry at me nor the times I got reprimanded by them. It will always boil down to one thing, they are good-hearted individuals. They are far from being perfect as parents and as individuals. But they try to be good examples for us.
A great deal about having good-hearted parents is that they treat us right and that they inculcate the right values as we grow older. Here are some of the values I learned from them.
To be kind
To show kindness is to be considerate. I complain of the simplest inconvenience shoved my way. My mother may not scold me for being bratty, but she always reminds me that others have it worse. That is, I am luckier than some of the people. I am reminded of this every time I encounter difficult people to deal with. It has become a mantra that others are also fighting a battle that I am not aware of.
There is no point in
My mother was an expert on preparing teens for successful lives. When I was ten years old, she sat me down for a mom to daughter encounter and told me that I could come to her with any concern or worry I might have. What a treasure that was!
So how can we prepare teens for successful lives?
1. Help teens to develop strategies for achieving academic success. Recent studies have shown that praise for good work is not as effective as praise for the path used to achieve success.
2. Be proactive in discussing life issues with teens. Talking about good education should begin in the pre-teen years. Don’t wait until grade school graduation to talk about high school years. Talk about financial responsibility needs to take place when the first allowance is given out.
3. Use the dinner table to discuss relevant issues. Do the “what if” game at the dinner table. What if a friend cheats on a test? Would you tell the teacher? What if you found out that a classmate was doing drugs? Who would you
Every parent loves their kid, and keeping their child safe falls under number one priority. What this mean reflects on the location and child’s personality. When a child sits in the car the safety measures will differ from when he is at home playing in the backyard. They say boys are daredevils and girls act prissy so keeping either one of them safe can be a challenge or can be a simple maneuver or coordination. Whatever the situation, keeping children safe when driving consist of following state laws of restraints and precautions.
When going from point “A” to point “B” with a child in a car the law requires that the minor 14 or under be in the back seat. Infant and toddlers, as per the law should be in a child’s car seat or a booster seat respectively. The infant’s car seat should be position where the back faces the passenger front seat, resulting in the infant facing the back seat cushion. Children six years or older use the booster seat and are secured by the car’s back seat belt. The restraint of the
What if I was to say to you, that each group of difficulties you have with your child could be dealt with effectively in simple, digestible brain games?
Sounds too easy?
OK, that’s the answer I was expecting and to be honest, I would have said the same thing 2 years ago. We have all spent long hours searching the net, being talked ‘at’ by professionals and therapists telling us we should do this and that but not really caring about your plight and our children. After all, every kid on the spectrum is different. I know that, you know that, and the reason why we know that is because we are parents, and we care about our children. We want them to thrive just like any other kid on the planet. Why should they not have the chance to lead rewarding lives? This isn’t have to be a ‘best dog wins’ world. We know we have the best kids because of their Autism, right?
So, today, you’re going to hear a mum talk. Today, I am going to tell you how I work
In my experience, most of the mean behavior among kids is mutual. Sometimes it will be your older kid behaving hurtfully and sometimes it will be the younger. This is not, of course, because they are bad: It is because they are still learning the skills they need to be able to advocate for themselves while at the same time reaching out generously to others. These kinds of social emotional competencies take lots and lots of practice.
That’s where you come in!
Learning how to be in touch with and verbalize your emotions so that you can make clear request of what you want or need is first and foremost learned from you. Start by helping your kids identify their emotions. When siblings are fighting, don’t take sides. Instead, guide them through the process of labeling how they are or might be feeling and what they need to feel better.
Let’s look at how this conversation might go:
George: She came in my room without asking and that is against the rules!
Anna: You, slime ball, you drew
“Let’s raise children who won’t have to recover from their childhoods.” Pam Leo
That quote really got my mind working this morning. I took a moment and reflected on my own childhood and it really is true. I was raised by my grandparents and I understand that their ways were the “old school” ways but to this day I still have a lot of emotional issues based on the methods of discipline and lack of approval I received as a child. I still have a lot of baggage that I have carried since childhood but over the years I’ve been getting a lot better about letting it go and not allowing my past to dictate what happens in my future. A couple of things DO still bother me to this day and as nervous as I am about it for the sake of knowledge and information that may help other children I wanted to share them with you:
– My grandfather always commented on my weight and put me down because I wasn’t a thin girl and I have always been self-conscious
After a long tiring day at your workplace, what is it that makes you really feel good? I think it is the feeling of returning home that makes a person feel peaceful after spending a strenuous day at the office. And what makes a house really a home! Of course a lovely partner and adorable children.
When you are capable of maintaining a balance between your home and office, your professional life and personal life, you can build a strong bond between you and your kids and have a sense of belonging, which is a basic human need.
Who doesn’t want to bring the best out of his / her kids! And only by good parenting, a proper balance of firmness and nurturance, one can bring the best outcomes for kids in terms of academic success, mental health and good well-being.
One of the most important things good parenting is focused on is putting encouragement over praise. In many ways, you can do this, and one of them is gifting your kids. When you see that your children score high in an